Halloween Self Preservation after Pregnancy Loss

We are reminded once again of the memories that we are unable to make with our little ones. For me the sadness starts to creep [ Halloween word] in, when I start to realize that Loey will never be able to dress up like a super hero or a princess. Of course, a bad ass princess and super hero, because she is tough and brave like that. And, the fact she won’t know what a chocolate bar taste like or I won’t hear her begging for more treats before bed and of course me giving in at least once, because life is short.
I won’t be holding her hand as we walk the cold streets and knocking on doors.

I know I’m not alone in my feels.

So I thought I would share what I am doing this Halloween, and some tools from my grief ghostbuster’s toolkit for Halloween.

[ did you see that - another Halloween word]

Jennifer HeptonOctober 30, 2018pregnancy loss, grief, children and grief, loss and family, halloween and baby loss, halloween and grief, grief coach, grieving parents, support for grief, support for pregnancy loss, infant loss, baby loss, stillbirth, stillborn, miscarriage, miscarriage support, seattle grief coach Comments

Grief and Boundaries

I know, it’s the last thing you want to think about at the moment - setting boundaries and telling people what to do, but I found this to be one of my saving graces after losing Loey.

So much of your health and general wellbeing depends on our ability to set and maintain good and healthy boundaries.

I think, and I am totally guilty of doing this, that women automatically default in taking care of everyone else and become the caretaker during loss and they forget about their own healing process.

Yes, sometimes it is justified but I do invite you to be conscious of your own healing process because unattended grief does not go away. It will stay in your body and create havoc.

Jennifer HeptonOctober 9, 2018grief coach, grief support, baby loss, infant loss, pregnancy after loss, life after loss, still birth, stilborn, birth trauma, grieving mom, grieving parents, support for grieving, bereaved parents Comment