October - Pregnancy + Infant LOSS Awareness Month
Did you KNOW …
In 1988, President Ronald Reagan designated October as national Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month to bring light to an issue that affects so many people. Each year in the United States, approximately 1 million children die in utero or shortly after birth, making it 1 in 4 pregnancies that result in a loss.
1 in 4 !
Losing a pregnancy has been such a taboo subject and many of us are left alone in our struggle, in our loss and in our sadness.
I have to share that this month, it’s amazing to see ALL the parents sharing their stories. All of them giving their grief and loss a voice.
As a grief + life coach, I’ve had the honor to witness several parents as they share their loss without shame or judgement.
I do hope that this continues, because that is when the healing truly happens.
We want to be heard AND we want to feel that we are NOT alone.
What does this MONTH mean to you?
This month brings so many different emotions.
I am incredibly honored to be part of a culture and community that is speaking out for all parents who have experienced pregnancy loss.
I am feeling the depths of the cries, the sadness and also the overwhelming need to tell society that we are a collective that needs to be heard and needs to be supported.
As I scroll down my instagram feed, I see the immense love and support we have for each other, which brings me warmth.
As I read and as I watch, I can’t help but think of my own losses throughout the years.
I can’t believe it’s been 6 years since we lost our twins and soon after, our 4 miscarriages and losing Loey at 39 weeks in 2017.
This brings forth a time of awareness, but also reflection on our own personal journeys, knowing that we have come a long way and that we are survivors.
In life we are designed to win. I know it doesn’t feel like that when we experience a pregnancy loss and shitty things happen to good people. I guess I’m sharing this thought to let you know that as hard, challenging, overwhelming and numbing our loss is, we as humans are able to survive - we are wired to do so. All of us have different coping strategies and of course grief has no time limit and is A fucking shit storm of emotions, but do know that you are a survivor.
Saying that, if this month is starting to overwhelm and trigger you - I invite you to increase your self -perseveration.
Here are 5 ways that you can encourage self - perseveration during this month and always …
PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY
I invite you to use your intuition. When you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed and tired, just put your phone away and do something different. As we acknowledge our anxiety and switch, we allow for our central nervous system to settle down.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF
You may start to get triggered more with all the shares on social media. If so, be kind. Its okay to feel angry, jealous, sad and tired. You are still grieving.
You may find that you are emotionally exhausted more this month. If so, take naps when you can and maybe go to bed earlier than usual. During sleep is when our nervous system and brain is able to restore.
Your body might start to feel the grief aches and the best thing to do is move. It can be a walk, a yoga class, a spin class, a barre class or a dance in your living room. Whatever you do - move your body and release the aches.
I am a massive believer in meditation. I know some of you are wondering how you will have time to sit still and meditate. If you have the intention of pause, of closing your eyes and connecting to your breath, that is all you need. I have a meditation / breath work exercise on my website here that you can start with.
If you have any other ideas around preservation, please feel free to leave a comment below.
Wishing you love during this month - OUR month of awareness, hope and support.
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